Benevolent Dictatorship?

There is a simple reason I use the phrase 'benevolent dictatorship' to describe my relationship - it's the most accurate and it paints an amusing picture.

What is a benevolent dictatorship?
In simple terms, it's a form of non-democratic government with power and rule in the hands of one person. The key word here is benevolent. Said leader uses their power to improve the lives of those that they rule. While it is not democratic, the leader may choose to seek feedback from their people via referendum.

Take this idea down to a relationship level and this is what I'm enjoying.

For the good of the people he rules:
Sir is 'the boss', the man in charge. At the same time he is what I consider a mentoring figure, parental in nature, and maybe a 'service master'. Sure I clean and cook for him, sex on demand, and try my best not to be argumentative (although that's never perfect), but I get something very important out of this. - the chance to observe. I respect him greatly and he's a role model - calm and collected, intelligent and cultured, down to earth and a dark sense of humor. I am fulfilled by serving but I'm also learning new and positive behaviors.

He works with me on my, admittedly, overly emotional behavior. He strongly encourages my pursuit of education. He's teaching me to achieve a sort of balance and I've already noticed improvement. Yeah, yeah, yeah, he also instructs me on how to please him sexually (he's not entirely selfless you know). He's improving me in ways we don't normally consider in D/s relationships. It's that lovey, mushy side of D/s. Whips and chains are alright in my book but I love this other dimension as well.

It's also important to note that he allows me to serve. Sir is a very independent man, accepting that I want to fetch him things hasn't been the easiest thing in the world. That fact that he recognizes this need of mine and has made efforts to accept it has certainly made me feel quite blessed.

Referendums?
I have a voice and Sir recognizes my opinions and concerns. Sir has never taken away my right to hold an opinion he doesn't agree with; he encourages civil discussion. If he's looking to try something new he generally lets me know and asks for my thoughts. What he does with my suggestions and concerns is up to him. I have a great deal of trust in him so I'm not very concerned about being pushed off a cliff anytime soon. Plus, he's more cautious than I am.


Oh, and one more thing. I think Sir gets a small kick out of being called a dictator... especially when we're teasing and harassing each other.