Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Lustful Submission

I am very lustful.

I have an incredibly high sex drive. Sir has a healthy sex drive, but it's not near as high as mine. Unfortunately, like most men would, I think he stresses about this. I wish he wouldn't.

Sure, I have a higher sex drive. So what!? I'm not going to be unfaithful or leave because of that. The sex we have is pretty satisfying. If I don't orgasm during intercourse he has no qualms about using an object to penetrate me until I climax too. He's really good about sharing the pleasure, even if under the sadistic guise that he doesn't care. I love it when he does that.

We found a funny way around my asking for sex all the time and him feeling down about not always being ready and my feelings of rejection. It's simple. I don't ask, I don't blatantly initiate, I don't get aggressive and molest him or anything. Without the pressure his sex drive is higher anyways. (All sorts of yay for me!) Plus sexual aggression coming from me doesn't really make me happy and I suspect it's a turn off for him - our sexual roles are so clearly defined, understood, and explored.

That's not to say I can't bend over in such a way, touch him in a loving and sensual manner, kneel next to him or become especially submissive in posture and speech. I can hint, I have to use any charms at my disposal to entice him and it's exciting. I'm no longer the aggressor, and that thrills me. I'm playing a fun game of seducing him, ultimately letting him choose if he's interested or not. It's a fun sort of dance and it's wonderful. It forces me to be creative and fun.

Best part of it all is that if he's not interested I still get a sexual thrill from it all. We've cuddled, rubbed, and snuggled; I've had my fun being silly and sexy. It's not any "not right now hun", he doesn't have to say a word, he just never takes me or touches me in an overtly sexual manner, he never initiates the sex. I never feel rejected playing this way, prior to this I would sometimes feel less desired. I either get sex or I laugh and be intimate with Sir which is great too.

I'm so surprised this worked. When Sir first brought up the idea I was so unsure. I figured I'd be laying about, dying of sexual need in silence. Far from it! Sir said I couldn't bluntly ask for it. He never said a word about playing, teasing, hinting to it. I have to work for it and it's rewarding for the both of us. Sex doesn't become as hum-drum as it might otherwise.

3 comments:

All Knowing Man said...

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love

AKM

Constance said...

Dear Mal,

As a naturally dominant man, my lover is also turned off by sexually aggressive women. He loves that I love sex, but in our relationship, he decides if and when, where, and how we have it. I love it, partially because it shifts the responability to him, which is lovely (no "good girls don't" guilt!) and of course the fact that he initiates it so frequently is very good for my sometimes fragile self-esteem. (Whereas, as you discovered, "No, Honey, not in the mood" is NOT!)
As women, we are actually very powerful, because of course most men DO want sex, and often, and we have all sorts of little tricks to attract their attention, don't we? How we dress, our make-up, a gesture, a shy look....you are so right about how exciting it becomes.

Fondly,
Constance

ThornDaddy said...

Howdy....we really like your D/s writing on your blog . We mentioned it on episode 139 of "SUBMISSION AND COFFEE"
http://www.askdollie.com
Episode isn't released yet, but it's uploaded if you wanna hear it:
http://www.askdollie.com/SAC-139-ARMPIT_PANTY_SEX.mp3

It's gonna be released on April 11th, and we'll link you on the AskDollie.com shownotes and mention in RSS feed, too.

(We like CuntPet, talked about her too)

Thanks!

ThornDaddy and Dollie Llama
Blog: http://www.thorndaddy.com/

MEW!