A Less Dramatic Collar

I was officially collared on March 9th, 2008.

Sir and I talked about collaring on and off for six months. What did it mean to us and all that good stuff.

Unfortunately a lot of time was spent trying to find a durable, low-key, 24/7 collar. We found it by going to Vad Farkas of RingofSteel.net. I have an aluminum, magnetic closing collar by the way and couldn't be any happier with the results. Ok! Enough pimping!
Anyways. He ordered the collar, and on a weekend he was back in the States he collared me.

It was a quick affair. I was in a pretty dress, getting ready to go out for a nice dinner that night. Sir had to shower so he told me to kneel down on the floor and wait until he was done. I knelt down, waited, amusing myself with my stockings. I wish I could say it was more romantic or intense but what's a girl to do by herself, kneeling, waiting for her man to come back to her?

When he came back out he told me to sit up straight while he placed my collar on. He knelt in front of me and pressed his forehead to mine. He mumbled sweet things about being a good girl and reminded me that I was to only serve him. Afterward he got up, finished getting ready to go out, and I pranced off for dinner.

It was quick, pretty low key, but still very special. It took me a few days after the collaring to find what I needed to get out of my collar. Amusingly enough Sir gave me the answer a few weeks prior to the collaring, of course it didn't sink in though - aye me.

It's about commitment to him, not a certain level of submission.

I didn't promise to be his slave; I didn't promise to keep up a specific level of submission; I didn't give up this or that right. I am his submissive, no collaring would change that or make it permanent because I already promised that to him. It's the way I'm built, it's the way we function as a couple, it's what makes me happy. There is no uncertainty there, it's just a fact, a part of us.

So what was the collaring about if not submission? My promise and my dedication to Sir and our relationship. My promise to try my hardest to be the best I can for him regardless of the D/s intensity level at the moment - because that will change and evolve over time.

So my collaring didn't come with any specific regulations, any major changes, any tasks to prove myself. The metal ring around my neck is a symbol of my commitment to Sir and our relationship.